We all know what we like in our partners, lovers and friends. And more importantly, we know what we don’t like and wish they wouldn’t exhibit. But are we blind to having the same traits or worse in ourselves?
So ask yourself:
And then get to the big question, would I want to have me as a friend?
Here is what Psychology Today has to say about people’s Boring Traits.
1. Repeated, perfunctory responses.
2. Simple questions.
3. Interruption.
4. Imbalance of talking time.
5. Abrupt changes in topic
6. Body position.
Maybe we should call this the “Ouch Blog” as a few of those zingers apply to me at times. But bottom line, we need to be excited about something to get interested in life. So are you excited about life, or at least parts of it? Or are you just passing time, just going through the motions?
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The Intention Experiment with Lynn McTaggert
Over the years, I have copied the behaviour of people whom I respected and admired and incorporated aspects of their behaviour as my own.
The most unusual example of me doing this occurred after a team-building exercise where participants had to pair up with another person whose personality type was one with which we related to the least. The person I paired up with is very different than me. She likes to be in the spotlight, is the life of the party and is spontaneous, whereas I prefer to provide a supportive role in the background, like deep discussions with a few people at a party and am a planner.
After an insightful discussion where we explored our differences, for example, stating why we found certain behaviour annoying and describing what we need from the other person – “Your high energy sometimes overwhelms me, allow me to have some quiet time to myself” – I understood the value that my partner brought to a team. She creates a sense of urgency and brings fun to a team.
I soon found myself copying some of her behaviour; she brought out a bit of wildness in me, and I missed her when she went away for 2 years. I know that her influence on me has made me a more interesting person.
Great insight Francoise. Thanks for sharing.