It seems when it comes to relationships, we think that when we have found a great relationship, that that is it. “What ever you do, don’t change…” we say to our partner. After all, we don’t want to lose what we have, right? Just think of all the songs on the radio, most are about love, and most are about how you just can’t go on without their love. Don’t change, you are perfect just the way you are.
But that’s not life, because life is about change. Change could also be called growth, and it is grow or die. Without growth, we begin to wither. If you don’t think so, take a look at the people who retire and sit back to enjoy their golden years. They stop growing and start aging at an accelerated rate. I see it happening on our street with people I have known for years and I am sure you see examples of this too.
And now for the big issue, relationships. If they stay the same, if no one changes, they become stagnant and will decay. Growth is natural, change is inevitable. Don’t fight it, but learn to accept that change happens, that growth is going to happen and the more you try not to change, the more you will be left behind. I especially see this in relationships where one partner grows and changes and the other sits still and complains, “you are not the same”. Don’t get left behind by being the one who tries to hold onto the past.
So dear reader, what do you think? Does this make any sense to you? Share your thoughts with us.
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Right on Tony !!
The thing is how to successfully growth together…
Thanks Isabelle.
I have found that the biggest thing is that both partners grow at the same time. It helps that they grow in the same direction, but more importantly, that they grow and not stand still.
What do you think?
Thanks for the reply Dr Tony… I agree totally… the direction is paramount.
What I have found with my successful relationships, whether it’s with my colleagues at work, my family or my friends, is the feeling of being complementary. Things work well when we are able to work together on our goals, using our own different skills, perceptions and way of doing things. Acceptance and respect of our differences are important. Growth and direction do seem to be an important part of this process – to be able to recognize and accept differences between us, to learn from each other, and to want the same things from life.
Dr.Tony this is another masterpiece. Change is indeed inevitable as Growth is natural. One cannot grow without changing. However, the most important thing is how the change is managed as one is growing and this affects every aspect of life.