Who doesn’t like Facebook? It is truly a wonderful tool to keep in touch with friends and family. And not only a place to keep in touch but to get in touch. But I had an old friend of mine tell me a story the other day about the other side of face book.
“Everyone is talking about finding lost friends through Facebook, he told me. I lost my wife because of Facebook!”
Theirs was not an unhappy marriage and as far as he thought, everything was OK. So what happened? His wife discovered Facebook. When told that you could find almost anybody anywhere she did what many people do. She started typing in the names of old high school friends. And then she did a search for an old high-school sweet heart and found him. And that’s was when the wheels fell off that marriage.
She, the wife and the old friend connected and before you knew it, they had fallen deeply in love all over again. And that was the end of the marriage to her then husband.
And the crazy part is, this is happening, not as a curiosity but as a regular occurrence.
Studies of this phenomena have found that if both of the people who were in a relationship all those years ago are unattached at the time of re-connecting, they usually end up making a very good new relationship together. The same study also found that if one or both of the partners are currently in a relationship, that this is a recipe for disaster.
The imprinting of that first love, together with the memories and time make a powerful combination that is hard to refuse. And this has resulted in many marriages/relationships falling apart as one of the partners drops everything to re-connect with their lost love.
My own personal experience with this was when I first discovered how to work with emotions and remove the negative imprints, or neuronets. To my surprise, I found a lot of “unfinished business” with my first love, and that was after over 20 some years at that time.
I worked on removing the negative impact of those old emotional memories, and that has truly helped make my relationship with my wife and partner much stronger.
It turns out that everyone has a first love and that there is almost always unfinished business to do with that experience.
So there you have it. If you are in a happy relationship and want to keep it, work on it by healing the past. Before you re-connect with that long lost love of yours, make sure you know what you are doing.
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Hi Tony,
I was surprised to find that I did have unfinished business from my first love, even though it had been over 20 years since I left him and I never wanted to hear from him again. My subconscious anger was giving me occasional nightmares where he would show up asking for forgiveness, and I would be upset that he was still able to hound me in my sleep.
After a few consultations with you and a great teleseminar with you and Marcelle on first love, I was able to truly forgive him. That forgiveness eliminated the bad feelings of hurt that I had. It feels great to no longer feel any emotional ties relating to the bad times I had with my first love (the memories of the good times had faded away many years previous). Forgetting the past is liberating because I can now live and fully enjoy the present.
First loves always seem to have “unfinished business”. Guilt, Anger, Grief and much more.
Thanks for sharing Francoise.